Teaching Children To Follow Directions

Use short, simple phrases, with episodes of repetition when necessary.
When possible, break down multi-step instructions into distinct component parts. Say “sit down, put shoes on” rather than “Go to the table, sit down, and put your shoes on.”
Be specific “please put your socks in the hamper” rather than “clean up your room.”
Phrase directions as a statement rather than as a question (i.e. “please put the book on the shelf” rather than “will you put the book on the shelf?”)

Check for understanding:

Implement pictures to provide visual representation and establish routine. For example, use sequential pictures to show the sequencing of washing hands or brushing teeth. These can be placed on the mirror in the bathroom.
Use daily or task specific picture schedules to provide visual representation of language, assist in transitions, and establish routines.

Apply a “first, then” model (i.e., first work, then play).
Pair related instructions together (i.e., Get your shoes, then put your shoes on). As consistency and accuracy of following related multi-step directions increases, begin to incorporate unrelated directions (i.e., Take off your shoes, then sit at the table).

Phrase directions positively and tell your child what you want him/her to do rather than what you want him/her not to do. For example, say “please walk” rather than “don’t run.” The same specific and descriptive language should be used when praising. For example, instead of saying “You are being helpful, ” it would be better to say exactly what you want/like about his/her behavior, such as “thank you for taking out the garbage without us having to remind you.”