The jump into middle school is a big one for many children and families! So many unknowns! Higher demands from teachers for time management and organization, more pressure from kids socially, and puberty hitting, all at the same time!
Here are some Junior High tips!
Executive Functioning/ Organization
- Make a daily written schedule and include wake up time, workout time, screen time and leave the house time. Be very specific.
- Buy an organization file binder versus the 8 separate folders your child may have had or been asked to bring. This keeps them much more organized.
- Ask the school for a locker in a preplanned place so your child does not have to run from one end of school to another if he has a tendency to be late.
- Think hard now if your child is struggling and ask for an IEP or 504 plan to get additional time or support. This will be so helpful and his plan also follow him when he may need it on standardized exams.
- Use a timer.
- Get your child into youth groups or sports. They can be through school clubs, park district, or religious organizations. Youth groups are wonderful ways to find friends that are similar to your child.
- Make plans with children that will be in his grade all summer. He should not walk into school not knowing too many people, especially if he is timid or has any trouble socially.
- Find a social group for teens at a local clinic or school so that he can practice his social skills with a trained professional.
- Have your child read over the summer. This makes them smarter and more confident. An extra tip: they can also read about all kinds of junior high experiences.
- Read this great book mom and dad: “But I’m Almost 13!” by Kenneth Ginsburg. It will help you understand and avoid so many struggles!
- Don’t forget to talk with your child, give eye contact, and hold his hand when you are walking. Just because he is growing up, does not mean he isn’t still your baby!
- Kids who go out and start over-prioritizing their peers socially, physically, emotionally, may be looking for attention! Give your teens attention! (See bullet above) and also, laugh with them, watch tv with them, take them out for an ice cream, don’t disengage!