Many children find it difficult to approach new friends. They often learn how, by watching others and trying things out. While they may be able to do this on their own, they will be even more effective if they have an adult to provide guidance, appropriate phrases, and opportunities to practice.
Having “go-to” phrases can really help children be prepared for social opportunities and lower anxiety about the unexpected. Here are some ideas to share with your kids.
Conversation Starters For Children:
Help them pick out 2-3 of their favorite “go-to’s” and practice in role play with each-other toys/figurines or new children (when ready).
Just introduce yourself!
Example: “Hi! I’m Alex.”
Ask a question about what they’re doing.
Example: “Are you playing the new Angry Birds game?”
Show that you’re interested in them.
Example: “I think I want to read that book. Do you like it?”
Give a compliment.
Example: “I like your backpack!”
Ask for their opinion.
Example: “Which video game do you like the best?”
Share a little about yourself.
Example: “I moved once too, so I know it’s really hard at first.”
Offer to help.
Example: “I can show you where that classroom is!”
Offer an invitation.
Example: “Want to sit together at lunch?”
Guide your child by talking about each idea and asking them which ones they prefer. This is a great conversation to have with your child as school just begins, to help lower that back to school anxiety!